I recently was asked how to find joy being a stay at home mom. Next month will be 5 years since I resigned from my full time job and took on the role of being a stay at home mom.
I wouldn’t change anything over the past 5 years, but it did take a while to accept my role and find joy within it.
These 5 years have been full of struggles, tears, heartache, finding a new me and learning to love the life I have. Not to mention whoever came up with the term stay at home, should be shot. Because I feel like I am never home. A better term would be an on the go mom… Because I’m always going somewhere, to the school, to the store, to our children’s activities and more.
The other day I was sitting down talking to a friend of mine. She’s been a stay at home mom for a year now and struggling. She’s wondering if this stay at home mom thing is for her and mentioned that she hated everything a stay at home mom is ‘supposed’ to do. She said she hated cooking, hated cleaning, hated the constant needs that her daughter required and when her daughter didn’t need her, her husband did and she wanted to know how I found joy in all of this.
How to Find Joy with Being a Stay at Home Mom
1.) Remember the Blessings. They are all around us and we are just too dumb to see them. As I’m sitting here writing this article, I’m listening to my 6 year old playing with his truck, making truck sounds and saying how he has a flat tire. That brings joy to my heart. Look all around you and fill your mind with stories only you can tell later.
2.) Make time for yourself. Everyone needs to have something of their own. Find a hobby and make it a point to have dedicated time for yourself.
3.) Stop feeling like you are responsible for everything. Just because you are home doesn’t mean that your husband can’t lend a hand or you can’t hire a house cleaner.
4.) Surround yourself with other stay at home moms. When you worked the people you worked with understood you, your complaints about your job and so on. Having other moms who “get” you can be a huge relief and confirm that what you are feeling is normal.
5.) Remember this time will fly by so fast and feel honored to be in the situation you are in. Look at what has changed in your life and how it is working for the better.
In my 5 years, I won’t lie. I still hate cleaning, I hate cooking all the time and their are times I just want to scream and get away. But for me being home brings so much relief to our family in other ways. It brings relief to my husband that I am here for our children. We don’t have to worry about who is going to take or pick the kids up from school/activities and when our kids have stuff going on at school I know we are there for them.
It’s these types of things that help me find joy of being a stay at home mom. Comment below and tell me what helps you find joy being a stay at home mom.