My boys {aka the twins} baseball season just ended. Their coach nominated them to try out for the leagues All Stars baseball team. Out of 110 kids only 20 kids were invited to try out. Out of the 20 trying out, only 13 kids would be selected. Knowing those odds that 7 kids would not make it I wanted to prepare my boys and let them know that one, both or none of them could be picked. If they didn’t make the All Stars team it was OK and they should be proud just to have been nominated.
During the tryout my boys did amazing! They played hard, gave their best and as their mom I couldn’t have been more proud.
At the end of the tryout practice the coach announced the team. Low and behold only one of the twins was selected.
When the last name was called and the coach was done giving his speech, I looked over at my son who wasn’t selected and saw the huge smile he gave. I could also see him fighting to hold back every tear. I was so proud of him for being such a great sport. Seeing that broke my heart, in fact I had to hold back all of my tears. I knew this could happen, I prepared my kids for it, but yet I failed to prepare myself.
It wasn’t fair for me to now have to watch only one of my boys play a sport they both loved.
It wasn’t fair for me to have to console one of the boys for being overlooked, while praising another for being recognized.
It isn’t fair for me to watch one of my kids envy their sibling with all of the perks that comes along with this event they both worked so hard for.
It wasn’t fair! {Stomp feet, arch back, kick floor}. Life isn’t fair. Which quickly forced me into teaching my kids how to deal with life, when life isn’t fair.
Here are 5 ways to Teach Your Kids How to Deal with Life, When Life Isn’t Fair
- 1.) It’s OK to express your emotions. (God gave us these emotions and we shouldn’t be ashamed to express them. You can be angry but you cannot take your anger out on others. You can cry but you cannot dwell in self pity. Be happy but do not be boastful.)
- 2.) Always give praise. (I made the All Stars but my brother didn’t. I thought for sure he would have made it, he was awesome at tryouts) or (Congrats bro, I’m bummed I didn’t make it but I’m glad one of us did!)
- 3.) Continue on with life. (Embrace the now! Enjoy the adventure and/or create new ones.)
- 4.) Lead by Example. (This is the biggest opportunity for you to shine. People will remember how you act.)
- 5.) Learn from this opportunity. (Don’t look at this opportunity as if you’ve failed. The only failure you will have is if you give up!)
Life isn’t fair it never has been. How we deal with life is what matters.
How do you deal with life, when life isn’t fair?
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