How to parent a child when parents don’t play nice is something we had to deal with the other day. We were at our boys championship baseball game and one play had a parent outraged!
Last week, my boys had their championship baseball game. It was an intense game, bottom of the 5th inning and our team was up to bat. We had 2 outs and bases were loaded. Our batter ran to first, the first baseman caught the ball and would have gotten him out. However the first baseman took his foot off of the bag. The outfield umpire called him out. Our coach disputed it and the infield umpire agreed with our coach and called our player safe. This decision was huge because it brought 2 of our players home, putting us in the lead.
The parents on the other team were upset, but after the decision was made and the game went on most of the parents let it go, except the parent of the first baseman. He was outraged! He walked over to our side of the dugout and started yelling at our kids telling them how much they sucked! After doing that he was removed from the field for the remainder of the game.
Our team ended up winning the game. My boys being very excited that they won, couldn’t celebrate. They were frightened. They felt that the angry parent was going to come hunt them down and kill them for winning the game.
I can’t believe the action of this parent! It’s a little league game with a bunch of 9-10 years old! Instead of being able to celebrate they were fearful and I had to think of how to parent my child when parents don’t play nice.
Communication was key! I asked my boys, the following questions:
Why do you think the adult acted this way?
Do you think it was appropriate?
Then I explained that just because someone acts out in anger, doesn’t necessarily mean they intend to hurt us.
I also encouraged them to continue to do what they love.
Then we talked about how to treat others with kindness and respect
and we finally talked about forgiveness. Teaching the kids that we should forgive, just like God has forgiven us.
I got my kids calmed down and excited about their accomplishment. It’s terrible that we even had to get to this point because of one’s parents ignorance.
Have you ever come into contact with a situation like this? How did you deal with how to parent a child when parents don’t play nice.