Lack of Communication is the #1 Relationship Killer!

Today’s technology is amazing. A few days ago, we walked into our friends house and they were video chatting with their parents. They talked for almost 2 hours. In a push of a button their parents were able to catch up with each of them and their grandkids. How awesome it that? Decades ago, we didn’t have that capability. Our best communication at the time was by phone. Even then it was difficult because the cost involved to talk long distance was quite expensive. Then of course going back even further than that we relied on letters.  For as far back as it goes, communicating is important!

It got me thinking about how most of us have this amazing technology in the palm of our hands but yet we still take that for granted and make no effort to communicate. Think about it? How is your relationship with your friends and loved ones?

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Which person came to mind when you asked yourself that question?  Now let me ask you, when was the last time you put for the effort? If you haven’t talked lately, let me ask you, do you feel close? Do you know what’s going on in their life? Do you even care to know? When you do talk are you listening? Perhaps your the one failing to communicate or maybe you feel like your the only one putting forth the effort not to have it reciprocated back. Whatever the case may be, when you lack the communication your relationship WILL change. The lack of communication is the #1 relationship killer!  Your relationship is dependent upon this.  Those you communicate daily with, will KNOW you best.  It’s that simple!

When you lack communication your relationship will change

Our relationship with God is the same way. He’s given us direct access to him through HIS word. He’s put for the effort with you and are you reciprocating back? He wants a personal relationship with us. He was to know us. He is here to listen. He wants to communicate with us, but in order to do that we must be willing to pick up the phone… AKA Bible and be able to listen. We can’t be doing all the talking. Have you ever gotten frustrated trying to talk to someone whose not listening? I’m sure God feels the same way towards us. He’s trying to talk to us and we’re not listening. He is there for you 24/7. So call him daily, multiple times a days or every hour if needed. He’s never too busy to take your call.

Philippians 4: 6-7 
Don’t worry about anything, instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand . His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

I know that hearing God is hard.  I love how the author Neale Donald Walsch, just started writing down his thoughts to everything he began questioning.  By doing so he was able to hear God.

Be sure to take a look inside this book Conversations with God.  It may just be something you need to get you started.

What do you do to put forth the efforts of communicating with God and your loved ones.  Share and comment below and be sure to forward this to someone you know that needs to hear this message.


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Gina is an overwhelmed mother of 4 children which includes twins. She often looks for ways to make life a little easier. When she's not chauffeuring her kids to school, cleaning the house or taking her kids to their activities, she finds her sanity though this blog and through social media. Her journey would not succeed without remembering to put Faith first, Family second and Work third.
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  1.' Pat in Atlanta says:

    I so agree with you, Gina, both on the communications with God and with those people around and closest to us. With God, though the church I have gone to for almost 20 years, I have found those I’ve known for years don’t seem to care about anyone except in their immediate family nucleus. 09/11 has a LOT to do with this, I feel, but since that time I feel the cell phone (mainly texting and games), and all the different types of video games (X-Box, etc.) have pulled people into themselves. Even my own 7-yr-old grandson is more technical, cell phone & computer savvy … when I didn’t even know what a computer was until I was in my 20s & had to learn how to operate the first very archaic computers where we had to “query” everything for there was no searches like Google, Bing, etc. then … let alone know anything existed at his age 7!!
    It was in the 80s … not that long ago … when my ex-husband came home with a work “cell” phone … it was as huge as our telephone receivers & laid back in a deep box as long as it was. He only picked up the “receiver” from the “box” to talk. Now cell phones are slim, trim and can do more than I know how to do to this day!!
    Call me old, call me old-fashioned, I don’t really care. I still like to visit people, relatives & friends IN PERSON. I still like to call them on their HOUSE phones, not their cells, or mine. BUT I am finding more & more each week, they are the ones closing into themselves, not me.
    And don’t even get me started on texting … the most impersonal form of communication to me … and it is RAMPID. We were in a Mexican restaurant back the first of 2015. It was later at night on a week night, so not as many customers as on the weekend. There were 3 teen “table cleaners”, 2 boys & 1 girl … sitting at a table together, but they were each on their cell phones … NOT talking to anyone, so either reading their E-Mails, texting or reading text, or playing games!! Sitting there together, not speaking one word to each other at all!!
    A family of 5 came in & were seated at the booth next to us. Waiting on our food, I got to go to the ladies’ room, walked by their table … ALL 5 were peering into their cell phones!! The parents were in their 30s, the kids ranging I’d say ages 7 – 14. When I came back, I told my husband, his cell was on the table because in an “Otter” box, it’s too bulky for his pants’ pockets … and mine was in my purse. We TALK when we go out to eat, not all the stuff with our cells!! So we listened to these 5 in the next booth … the only time they talked was to give their orders to the waiter, then total silence … EVEN AFTER their food came!!! Since this event, I have been a “conscientious observer” of people & their cell phone ADDICTIONS. I only text when someone else text me to respond, which always includes CALL ME LATER TONIGHT AND LET’S TALK. A phone conversation can say far, far more in less time than the abbreviated text messages, back & forth, back & forth. And don’t get me started on people driving & texting. Even Oprah’s campaign years ago with 1000s signing their pledges … didn’t help a bit.
    Soooo … if people now hardly ever communicate with each other … do you really expect them to take time to talk with God? No, no and no. The younger generation, my grandchildren’s ages 7-21, have no clue, for my poor daughter travels for work and her horse competition shows on the weekends … Dad doesn’t take them to church … and I can’t influence them for they live 1000 miles away. But Dad is a home techo, so he makes sure all 3 kids have the latest and greatest in technology of all media!! I see adults and their kids walk out of our church … ALL reaching for the cell phones before they can cross the parking lot to their car!!! Does this mean they “turned off, or tuned out, God the minute they walked out the church door?” I feel they do … and don’t think about Him again until the next Sunday at church for an hour.
    I am an upbeat, positive person …. always have been … though have been through some really tough spots in my life … but all this technology is great for progress, but NOT for the human race who would rather text than call someone … who turns God off after that only one hour at church … and go for what is most important to them, above all people and God …. It bothers me, it really bothers me.
    In the stores or malls, I see people, of all ages, walking around with their cell phones IN THEIR HANDS, not in their pockets or purses … or talking or texting on them!! I used to have a TON of friends & we would go to movies, to lunches, to plays, to concerts, have cookouts or bonfires, go camping & fishing …. not anymore. I am a social person … and can hardly get a one of my friends to go and do anything any more. They are extremely busy, they’re taking their children for their 3-5 extracurricular activities each, even in the summer, running, running, running. What happened to family night, game nights, family/friends’ cookouts, getting together in different homes to watch the Super Bowl??? The closest I know of are women getting together to watch The Living Dead once a week!!!! Please.
    Then … back to our Awesome God … so few of us talking to Him, praying to Him, feeling Him all around us. The way I see it, this is why our world is in such a mess … and getting worse … now random bombings killing innocent people …. right here in our own country … and our own FBI hasn’t a clue when the next one will be … or where. Scary.
    So glad I am old-fashioned, have a clear perspective, am aware of my surroundings at all times, hate cell texting, only have my cell for emergencies or so my husband (who travels) can reach me if I’m not at home, or to text respond to someone who text to me … and talk to God every single day …. several times a day. I haven’t watched the news on TV in many years because it seems to just report 99% of what bad is happening & 1% of what GOOD is happening. I do watch World News Tonight with David Muir … he can pack a lot … what I need to hear … in 30 short minutes each night. I watch 60 Minutes, 20/20, etc. to catch up on other things.
    And …. I am still a positive, happy person despite the tragedies I’ve gone through, love some of my family (long story), love my life and feel extremely close to my Father God. But not blind to and do realize more & more … people are moving away from people, and away from God … and that is both scary and sad.

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