Temper Tantrums aren’t fun and I recently read a blog article that I believe was intended to spike some controversy with its content. The article was about children and their temper tantrums and basically went to say that if your child throws temper tantrums you should stay home with your kids. The person who wrote it felt that these bad behavioral kids were ruining their good kids and the article offered no solution other than to stay home with your kids and not expose the world with this behavior.
This article hit a nerve with me, as intended because like I said in the beginning it was written with that intention. Oh these oh so fortunate parents who have never had their kids throw a temper tantrum in public, how I wish this on thee…
You falsely believe that these are bad kids and bad parenting is going on for your child to throw a temper tantrum.
I’ve been there and it’s not pleasant. My daughter now 18, at the age of 3 threw a temper tantrum in the store. She was one of those “bad” kids. We were picking up a few items and happened to go by the toy section. She grabbed a toy and I told her she could not have it and she threw a temper tantrum. This threw me by surprise. Her first one, in the store and I was utterly embarrassed. I can still remember it to this day. She arched her back and started with the kicking, while I was holding her. As much as I wanted to let her go and drop on her head because I was so angry of this behavior I didn’t.
Disciplining her by saying no and not giving in, got me nothing but dirty looks from spectators. Had I bought her the toy, she would have stopped and everything would have been fine with the world and I would have raised a spoiled little brat. Parents should have been cheering me on, saying way to go for not giving in to your child for their bad behavior.
We are so quick to judge the instance. I used to judge too! That was before I had kids, before I experienced the situation for myself and now I feel for the parent and give them a smile.
I put together 10 Do’s and Don’ts for kids with temper tantrums for parent’s and observers.
- Parents -Don’t give in to your child’s tantrum. Doing so will let them know they are the boss.
- Parents -Don’t ignore your kids and let them continue with their tantrum as if it will eventually stop.
- Parents -Do take your child away from the environment. Get down on their level and explain to them that their behavior is unacceptable.
- Parents -Don’t be afraid to discipline your child in public.
- Parents -Do be mindful of the situation around you. If you can’t get the situation under control don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you need to leave a cart full of groceries and come back, let the store clerk know and then leave.
- Parents -Do wait to go out and run your errands if you know your child is already fussing and needs a nap.
- Observers – Don’t judge the other parents and give your nasty stares. This only frustrates the already frustrated parent.
- Observers – Don’t offer advice during this time. It’s not the time and place for it.
- Observers - Don’t assume these are bad kids. These could be children with special needs, disabilities etc. Plus everyone has bad days. I know there have been some days where I wanted to throw a fit for not getting things done my way.
- Observers - Do try to distract the kids. Sometimes giving the kids a big smile or silly face can change the situation.
I hope this help you on how to deal with children who have temper tantrums.
What are your thoughts about the do’s and don’t of this list and how do you deal with temper tantrums?