Becoming a mom changes your life. You have to deal with this little infant 24/7 and somehow you forget all about yourself. You become overwhelmed with this child, your home, your spouse and work that it just becomes a way of life. We get so used to putting everyone before us, that many of us moms become depressed, lonely and lost.
Feeling that way is hard enough but I think it’s even harder for stay at home moms. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 4.5 years. I love being home, I do. But honestly being at home sucks. You long to interact with your friends but the friends you have seem to fade away. It’s just a way of life. You are no longer working therefore you don’t see your friends daily. You can’t really call them during the day while they are working and life after work is usually the busiest time of the day for most of us.
Being a stay at home mom also brings on a bit of guilt. We feel as if we are not earning an income, we shouldn’t spend money on ourselves.
Being a working mom also bring on a bit of guilt. We spend so much time working and being away for our family, that we feel guilty if we spend more time away from our family.
Whether you are a stay at home mom or working mom, it’s important to take time for yourself and spend time AWAY from your family. You need time to refresh too. Getting time away from your family will help you appreciate the blessings you have in life.
Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
Find a hobby – Having a hobby can gives you something that you can claim as yours. It doesn’t belong to your kids or your spouse. It’s all yours and something you get to do just for you. I got a great deal from Groupon and took a painting class.
Pamper yourself – . Go get a massage, your hair done, etc. and enjoy the time to relax and let someone else take care of your needs.
Make new friends – Making new friends is important especially if your current friends aren’t in the same situation you are. An example would be if you are a stay at home mom, make friends with stay at home moms. No one know your struggles like someone in the same situation as you. I know as an adult it is harder to make friends, especially if you don’t work. Join groups such as MOPS, look for local groups within meetup, google plus and facebook.
Meet with friends on a regular basis. – Every mom needs refreshing time, time to chat with friends face to face without interruption. Make a point to have coffee, lunch, dinner, meet your friends for a movie or even go for a walk or to the gym. Whatever your budget will allow, just make a point to meet on a regular basis.
Take a Mom vacation. – Yes, I know this may sound crazy but really, take a vacation away from your spouse and family. Check with your church and find a women’s retreat, conference or something, even if it’s only for one night. Being away, without your family really opens your eyes. You start to notice how quiet things are, how you aren’t needed every moment of the day and just missing your family refreshes your soul.
I can’t express enough how much putting these tips has changed my life. I am a much happier mom. I enjoy my kids more now because I am more relaxed. There was once a time where I wanted to quit being a stay at home mom but once I started putting me first and looking at life differently I no longer feel that way.
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