Birth control pills are common in today’s society, especially with teens. Mothers are putting their daughters on it in hopes of preventing teenage pregnancy and to my surprise the doctors are encouraging it too.
I took my daughter in to see the gynecologist when she was 16 years of age. She had abnormal periods due to her low platelet count and we wanted to make sure she didn’t have any issues from the chemotherapy treatments she had when she was younger.
The doctor did a few tests and found that everything appeared to be normal and suggested that we put her on birth control. When I said no, the doctor looked at me as if I were the dumbest mother on earth. She started lecturing me on all the reasons why I should put my daughter on birth control. Some of the ‘so-called’ benefits were regular periods and clearer skin and of course pregnancy prevention.
I wasn’t willing to put my daughter on birth control just to have clearer skin and regular periods. Yes, I am concerned about pregnancy prevention, but I feel that giving teens access to birth control gives them the green light to have sex, become more sexually active and be exposed to sexually transmitted diseases. Since birth control is not 100% preventative, they should be using a condom anyways.
Talking about sex isn’t easy. Our children need to understand why not having sex is really the only way to prevent them from having sex.
Here are the 5 things we talked about:
- The bible tell us that God wants us to wait until we marry to have sex. If we waited we wouldn’t deal with teen pregnancy, the amount of abortions going on in this world, etc.
- Having sex will not make anyone fall in love or want you more. Love comes from the heart and you should never feel pressured to have sex just to take your relationship to the next level.
- We talk about situations happening around her. I shared stories about when I was younger, what happened to my friends, how they were used by their boy friends, their one night stands etc, and wouldn’t you know it… she knows someone that is going through that situation right now.
- We talked about our society saying how using condoms is practicing safe sex. There is no safe sex, condoms help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases but condoms can fail. If you are going to have sex you need to be prepared of the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a STD.
- Resisting the temptation of having sex before marriage is difficult and that’s because God’s knows the hurt that’s involved. Have faith. Only good can come by waiting and following his plan. ( 1 Thessalonians 4:1-18)
I know that I cannot make this decision for my daughter. I can only guide her on what the bible teaches and what I know to be true and not worry about what normal is in our society.
How do you feel about teens and birth control?